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66 Social Skills for Kids’ Social Success

What social skills will my kid need to develop?

There are few parents or educators that have not explored at some point of time questions related to social skills for kids.

We wonder how we can help our kids with social skills. We fear they may be struggling to make friends. We get disappointed when they don’t address their elders respectfully. And for those of us with kids with special needs, lack of social skills is a reality that we need to work on every day.

In today’s post, you will find a comprehensive checklist of social skills for kids that may give you ideas of areas you may need to develop or work  on (66 Social Skills for Kids)

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What are Social Skills?

Social skills are those skills we use every day to communicate and interact in society, both verbally and non-verbally.

Why are Social Skills Important for Kids?

Social interaction is a key component in human learning.

Children learn about norms and acceptable behaviors through their social interaction with parents, teachers and, later in life, peers.

Good social skills will help kids successfully interact in social situations, build positive relationships and have a better self-image.

Examples of Social Skills

The list of social skills that will help us succeed in social situations is long. Different skills are interwoven to facilitate more complex ones.

Let’s take as an example the skill “Being able to start and maintain conversations”

If we wish to train that skill in a kid or an adult, we will also have to train several different skills like:

  • Making good eye contact
  • Respecting personal space
  • Reading facial expressions
  • Using open-ended questions
  • Active listening
  • Empathy
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Exploring Social Skills for Kids

This post will capture a selection of more than 60 very important social skills that may help our kids (or us adults!) interact successfully in social situations.

Before we move into the checklist itself, let me explain how I have organized these sets of skills, to help you assimilate the enormous amount of information you will find in the social skills checklist.

You will find them organized in the following relevant sections:

    1. COMMUNICATION
      VERBAL COMMUNICATION
      Verbal communication is the use of sounds to express yourself.
      There are different types of verbal communication like interpersonal communication, communication in groups and public speaking.
      NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION SKILLS
      Non-verbal communication may be as important as verbal communication. Social success may rely on occasions on non-verbal messages.
      Non-verbal communication may:
      -replace verbal communication in some situations
      -complement, modify or contradict what we say in our verbal communication.
      Non-verbal skills are divided into:
      -body language (eye contact, posture, facial expression, personal appearance)
      -paralanguage (voice tone, voice volume, voice inflection)
    2. LISTENING
      Listening skills are essential for effective social communication.
      Have you ever been in a situation in which you are so focused on sharing your own views that you miss out on what is going on around you?
      Or have you ever told your kids that hearing you is not the same as listening to you?
    3. FEELINGS & EMOTIONS
      Being able to identify, label and express their own emotions and others’ emotions is an important part of kids’ social and emotional development.
    4. PARTICIPATING IN GROUPS  & SPEAKING UP FOR THEMSELVES
      Have you ever looked at a kid and thought, he/she is good in one-on-one interactions, but he/she is lost in a group situation.
      Groups have their own social rules.
      Being part of groups, our kids also need to learn to speak for themselves, show respect, kindness but be able to stand their ground.
      More on the topic: Assertiveness for Kids
    5. PROBLEM-SOLVING
      Problem-solving is a lot more than an academic skill. Maths is probably the first thing that comes to mind when most people think about problem-solving. Problem-solving in life and in the social context is a key skill.

Checklist of Social Skills for Kids

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COMMUNICATION SKILLS

VERBAL COMMUNICATION

          1. Introducing yourself
          2. Starting a conversation
          3. Maintaining a conversation
          4. Giving a compliment
          5. Accepting a compliment
          6. Learning how to finish a conversation
          7. Learning how to speak in public
          8. Learning how to address different people (a peer,a teacher, the principal, a stranger)

NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION

          1. Using the appropriate tone of voice
          2. Using an appropriate volume of voice
          3. Making eye contact
          4. Learning about facial expression
          5. Using gestures to convey information
          6. Respecting personal space
          7. Use of touch / Touching others
          8. Learning about body posture
          9. Learning to read body language
          10. Understanding personal appearance and “decoding” it

LISTENING SKILLS

          1. Learning to listen with complete attention
          2. Teaching active listening
          3. Problem-solving in a social /group context
          4. Learning to negotiate

FEELINGS & EMOTIONS

          1. Identifying emotions
          2. Labeling emotions
          3. Expressing emotions
          4. Learning to express strong feelings like anger appropriately 

PARTICIPATING IN GROUPS

          1. Joining a group
          2. Meeting new people
          3. Asking questions during conversations
          4. Learning to share
          5. Learning to cooperate
          6. Taking turns
          7. Not interrupting while others speak
          8. Following rules
          9. Accepting diversity
          10. Being patient
          11. Being assertive
          12. Accepting other people’s opinion
          13. Coping with criticism
          14. Providing feedback to other people’s opinions
          15. Learning about empathy
          16. Using good manners
          17. Asking for permission

TAKING CARE OF ONESELF & OTHERS / SPEAKING  UP FOR YOURSELF

          1. Learning to ask for help when needed
          2. Helping your friends when they need help
          3. Showing kindness to others
          4. Showing interests in others
          5. Understanding how others feel about the way you act
          6. Learning the meaning of friendship
          7. Showing respect
          8. Apologizing
          9. Learning to forgive
          10. Learning about bullying and how to avoid it
          11. Learning to express your opinions assertively
          12. Learning to say no
          13. Learning to apologize
          14. Problem-solving in a social /group context
          15. Learning to negotiate
          16. Knowing what you can and can’t share about yourself with others

PROBLEM-SOLVING

          1. Learning to identify problems and describe them
          2. Generating solutions /alternatives
          3. Predicting consequences for those alternatives
          4. Choosing the alternative that best solves the problem
          5. Taking action to solve your problems
          6. Learning to compromise
          7. Understanding behaviors that can lead to problems

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