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17 Anger Management Activities for Kids

Last week was our ” anger management activities for kids ” week. My 10-year-old son has special needs. He has been struggling with his feelings of frustration and anger triggered by our relocation to a new country. We have been working at home and, unlike some other occasions, my daughter (7 y.o.) has also been full on participating. We are not new to this, but to my surprise, it seems to be working this time! Today, I will write about what we started doing last week. In my next post, I will list the reasons why I think we have been so successful this time.

Post Index:

  1. How do I explain to my kid what anger is and its function?
  2. What does anger look like? How angry am I?
  3. Anger management activities for kids
1.How do I explain to my kid what anger is? Why do we feel angry?

These are some of the facts about anger that I explained to my children:

1. Anger is an emotion. When I feel angry I may feel irritable, tense, and anxious. I may also have negative thoughts.

2. Anger is not bad.

3. Anger has a function: your body is telling you that something is bothering you.

4. We all feel angry sometimes. Mum and Dad also feel angry sometimes.

5. We can learn ways that help us control our anger. Sometimes we will need to solve a problem. Some other times we will not be able to fix what is bothering us, or we will not know exactly what is causing these feelings. In those cases, we can still learn ways that help us control our anger

2.What does anger look like? How angry am I? 5-point visual scale.

Our next step this week has been to talk about the different degrees of anger. To help us express how angry we are (or how happy!), we used a visual scale. Visual scales are used not only within the scope of special needs but also with children in general, since it provides them with clues that help them express the intensity of an emotion, feeling or sensation (anxiety, anger, pain …)

For each level of the scale, we have been discussing how we feel on that level (1 happy / 5 extremely angry) and how it shows.

5 point scale for anger


3.Anger management activities for kids.

The next step has been talking about all the things we can do when we are at each level. For level 1 and 2, since we are quite happy, we just need to keep on doing whatever is working for us. When it comes to levels 3, 4 and 5, we have been building a menu of activities that will help us calm down and control our emotions.

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17 Anger management activities for kids (downloadable booklet with visual clues at the end of the list!)

  1. Ask Mummy for help

Exercises that help us relax (breathing exercises):

  1. Breathing exercise 1: pretend you are smelling a flower /pretend you are blowing a candle
  2. Lazy 8 Breathing exercise
  3. Deep breathing while Mum counts to 10

Exercises that help us relax (relaxation):

  1. Progressive muscle relaxation exercises (post on this coming soon )

Taking a break from the situation- physical space:

  1. Moving to a different room from where the problem is happening
  2. Step out to the garden
  3. Mum/Dad take me for a walk

Taking a break from the situation- move to a new fun activity:

  1. Watch a favourite tv program
  2. Mum tells a story
  3. Play a game in computer/tablet
  4. Play board games

Physical activity to burn energy:

  1. Bounce-on ball
  2. Jump
  3. Run around the couch

Other techniques:

  1. Stop / Think / Do – Stop when you are very angry / Think what alternatives you have to solve the problem / Implement the chosen one
  2. Start counting (1- 10)


You can download these 17 anger management activities for kids here: (with visual clues to help them browse through the menu)

17 Anger Management Activities for Kids

In our son´s case, he finds it extremely difficult to self-regulate, so once he is in levels 3, 4 or 5, the first thing he needs to do is “ask for Mum´s help”. Then we can both choose an activity from our visual menu. My objective is for him to be able to do it on his own in the future. My daughter can already start working on selecting her own strategies, initially relying on our visual menu.

What are you anger management activities for kids?


Coming next in the blog:

1.Why we have been successful with our last week intervention

2.Breathing techniques: Lazy 8 Breathing– why it has been the only breathing technique that has worked well for us in the past.


You may also enjoy reading our kids´stories. These are the stories that I crafted for my son to help him cope with frustration and unsettledness. In our tales, we take something “abstract”, an annoyance, and we turn it into something physical, a Monster. Then, armed with our wit and cleverness, we are able to fix any problem. I hope your kids find them fun. Please, meet:

The Confusion Monster
The Forgetting Monster and
The Breaking Monster

See you soon! If you have not downloaded the booklet, you can also subscribe below:

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